There are certain moments and minutes that matter, certain hinge points in the history of each of us. Some seconds are so decisive they shrink the soul, while other seconds are spent so as to stretch our spirit. We are each faced with choices that, once made, will in many cases, forever open or close doors of opportunity. These pivotal moments can carry with them consequences that can define our lives.

One of the great lessons to be learned from those who have made correct choices is that they have decided on their course of action in advance. They have set their lives on such a path that when a moment of decision arrives, their response is natural.

None of us can afford to be unprepared for defining moments. Fortunately, we are not alone. I have found that when I surround myself with good friends - ones who are determined, like myself, to live a good life - I am more apt to make good choices. When I was newly married, Trish and I talked of having children who would be smart and beautiful and talented, etc. Now 20+ years later, I pray for my children to be strong in adversity, to learn from their mistakes and to be compassionate and giving to those within their influence. Too often those who do not have to struggle through life's challenges, do not develop the inner strength required to reach their potential.

Each of us will have the opportunity to save others from hindering their spiritual missions. Every day we have opportunities to lift and assist others by living in harmony with high values so that others may draw strength from us and likewise make good decisions.

How often has each of us had an opportunity to spread sunshine in the lives of others by simply showing an interest in them - by saying "hello" or by offering to walk with them or eat lunch with them? When we enter a room, do we look for ways to make others comfortable, or are we only concerned with our own grand entrance?

Looking beyond ourselves can bring great satisfaction to us and much joy in the lives of others. An encouraging word uttered at the right moment could make a difference in another's day, or even another's life. Failure to act with courage in defining moments can leave lasting scars on the soul.

As I understand it, defining moments can come in two ways. First, and probably more important is what I call the quiet defining moment. This is when in the solitude of your soul, you determine your future actions. For example, you resolve to never smoke or use tobacco. You decide you will be honest and never cheat. Make a decision once, rather than again and again when situations and circumstances may make you more vulnerable to succumbing to the pressures of the moment. By rehearsing in your mind's eye your responses and reaction to various situations, you will prepare yourself for the second type of defining moments. These moments come when we are unaware and have the power to reveal our character for better or worse.

Early in my high school experience I had a science teacher, Joel Rosenberg. He taught a segment of my freshman science course, and upon seeing me as a sophomore, in his science class (the one for the dumb or lazy kids) said to me, "Kyle, you don't belong in this class! You're better than this. Next semester I want to see you in my chemistry class." At that point in my life, I was struggling with my self-worth and had decided to take the easy road and not challenge myself academically. When I was encouraged by a teacher who saw more in me than I could see in myself, I rose to the challenge. In less than a minute, this man boosted by self-worth and self-confidence that put me on the right track with my schooling. For me, this was a defining moment.

Take some time to reflect on your defining moments. Make some decisions right now regarding how you will respond to future situations.

~ Dr. Kyle D. Christensen ~

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